Online dating is very tricky. There are so many stereotypes and prejudices when it comes to meeting people on the Internet and getting romantically involved with them. I've said it many times and I'll say it again - the world wide web is not a friendly place. You can easily get catfished, tricked and played. It almost feels like people on the Internet don't have any feelings and are all made of pure evil.
So how do you win in the world of online dating? I'll explain. Yes, I'm your Montreal online dating guru. I know everything there is to know about dating apps, pickup lines and anything else Internet love related. Here's what I've learned about cyberspace romance.
Know what you're looking for
One of the biggest mistakes people do when diving into dating world is not knowing what they want. Do you want a serious relationship? A random fling? Do you want to get married soon? Or do you just want someone to talk to? Have an honest conversation with yourself and figure out what it is that you want. Once you figure it out, keep this "criteria" in mind when scanning through profiles.
When you start a conversation with someone online, ask them a lot of questions. Avoid things like "What do you do for a living?" or "What area do you live in?" They're not that important and you can ask these basic things later. Instead, ask fun questions that can really give you an idea of who is on the other side of the screen. For example, "What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?" or "What is your most treasured memory?"
Don't judge the book by its cover
Don't "swipe right" only because you find someone good looking. Physical appearance is somewhat important, but it's NOT what you should base your choice on. Make sure to read people's bios.
In addition, you'll be surprised how some people look 100x better in real life. Not everyone is photogenic.
Don't have any expectations
Let's say you start talking to someone, the conversation flows, you find them attractive, everything is going great... DON'T BUILD ANY EXPECTATIONS. Have fun with it, don't make any plans for your future together, go with the flow. It may or may not work out and, you know what? It doesn't matter, because you'll have a good time regardless of the outcome.
Step out of your comfort zone
Don't go for the "type" of people you usually are attracted to. Step out of your comfort zone and try something different. Internet is a place where you can experiment and try new things. It's so easy, just do it. You never know what might come out of it.
Meet in person
Don't wait too long before meeting in person. From my experience, waiting a week or two before meeting in "real life" is optimal. Pick a coffee shop and head there during lunch hour. That way, you can get a feel of that person before committing to a dinner date.
Even if your first date went great and you're excited to see that person again, don't tell your friends and/or family anything yet. They will mess with your head. Stay private until you are certain about the two of you.
Never get physical on the first date, unless...
Unless, of course, you really want to. Otherwise, it's best to keep your steamy make out sessions for the dates to come. Don't rush.
Keep your options open
Don't commit to a new relationship right away. It takes time to build trust between two people. Keep your options open, don't rush (once again), date around and be honest about it.
Learn from your mistakes
If you've already tried to meet someone online and failed miserably, don't give up on the idea altogether. Analyze your failure, figure out what you did wrong and learn from your mistakes. Improve yourself everyday. Nobody's perfect. Remember - when one door closes, another opens.