As a single Montreal girl, I meet a lot of different guys. Some are great, others not so great... I have to say though, overall, Montreal men are pretty decent. We are quite spoiled with quality material in our city.
Don't get too excited just yet. Some guys you meet might lure you into their seemingly perfect worlds and then turn out to be real assholes. Have no fear, girl, I got your back! There are a bunch of red flags that can totally help you realize that something is fishy. So here are 10 types of guys you should NEVER trust.
1. The Tinder guy
The two of you met on Tinder? Red flag. Most guys on Tinder are there for one thing only - booty. If you're comfortable with the idea of casual hookups, great! Otherwise, stay away from Tinder.
2. The "too serious too soon" guy
The guy who calls you his girlfriend after the first date or two clearly has some serious issues. Unless you want to actually help him and be his psychologist, there is no other valuable reason why you should continue seeing him.
3. The "send me your nudes" guy
A guy who asks for your nudes before the two of you even hooked up is actually a fuckboy, sorry. There are other signs that can help you spot a Montreal fuckboy, you can find them here. Stay alert.
4. The really handsome guy
If he's really ridiculously good looking, he might be obsessed with himself. Especially if he works as a model. Does he have way too many selfies on social media? Red flag. Like, if he's just blessed with good looks, but doesn't take himself too seriously and has a normal job - great. Otherwise, run, girl, run!
5. The guy who talks about his ex
If a guy keeps bringing up his ex, that's something you should never disregard. It's especially alarming if he tells you how his ex was a whore and how much he hates her now. Yikes! He's obviously very passionate about someone who's not you.
6. The smooth talker
NEVER trust a smooth talker! These guys can talk their way out of anything. When someone is sincerely interested in you, they get nervous and aren't able to put words together with you being around. If he's charming you with his witty comments, it's a trap, girl.
7. The guy who splits the bill on the first date
That's a really cheap move. If a guy is legitimately broke, he could've invited you for ice cream or a walk instead. Stay away from guys who let you split the bill on the first date.
8. The fashion icon guy
You might love the way he dresses, but these guys take themselves way too seriously. Think about it, if he can't leave the house without looking picture perfect, there's obviously a problem. When a guy's main concern is whether his tie matches his suit, it's definitely not the type of guy you want to end up with.
9. The "too busy" guy
You've had a few amazing dates and now you're dying to see him again, but he pulls the, "Sorry, I'm really busy." excuse. He's just not that into you, unfortunately. Stop wasting your time and move on. A guy who wants to see you will always find a way to see you, no matter how busy he is.
10. The party guy
Yes, sure, the two of you might have a lot of fun partying... but! If he's out every single weekend, his priorities are obviously to pop bottles and fuck bitches. If you happen to approve of this #yolo mentality, then you should totally go for it. Otherwise, keep looking for your prince charming and save this guy's number for when you want to let loose and get a little wild.
Teleport is a new video speed-dating platform where you get set up with five people that you share similarities with and get to go on five dates in 30 minutes.
Afterwards, you're able to continue messaging the people you met during the dates if you both chose the option to keep talking to one another.
It is designed for people of all sexual orientations.
To get paired up, you get yourself a "ticket" for different events that pique your interest, such as one called "Outdoor Adventure anyone?" then you will get to meet people who also signed up for the same event when it begins.
Teleport will officially launch in Montreal on June 17 at 8 p.m. and you'll be able to start signing up for events that evening, which will allow you to go on dates with people of similar interests.
"Starting June 17th, we will have weekly events on Thursdays, 8 pm where people are smartly paired," Teleport told MTL Blog.
Why do the creators think Teleport is necessary in today's world?
The creators of Teleport, Chad Goodman, Tyler Greenberg and Michael Ding have been working on the app for two years now. "We completely evolved the way you meet new people," the creators told MTL Blog.
"The future of social is live, in the moment, and as exciting as the real world. We believe that the best encounters are face-to-face. When you can see their smile, hear their voice, and feel their energy."
"Swiping right will never replace that magic. But, swiping and texting have replaced real connections. The very apps that seek to bring us together are what are making us feel so alone."
They concluded by saying, "Dating should be exciting, in the moment, and face-to-face, not a mindless game, swiping on fake profiles. Teleport is inspired by the real world, and we believe that it’s the first real dating app.”
How can I make a Teleport profile?
Once Teleport launches on June 17, you'll be able to go to either the website or the app, which you can find under "Teleport Dating: Video Events" on the Apple App Store, and start building your profile.
When creating your Teleport profile, you'll be asked different questions like your star sign, how often you exercise, "do you enjoy drinking?" and more to help the team at Teleport get to know you better.
You can also write a bio about yourself and add various photos.
Once your profile is all set up, you can take a look at the events happening for Montreal and see which ones you'd be interested in video chatting people at!
"The idea about a year-and-half ago came to be because I was like, I can't be the only person living the situation. So my partners and I created Wide The Brand out of necessity."
Where do you see Montreal's fashion industry going in the future?
Montreal is such a creative hub. When it comes to fashion and design, I think that there's a lot of talent here. But it's not always easy for designers here in Montreal to broadcast their message where it needs to go.
There's a sensitivity to local production, which is something that we're really putting forward — local talent, local expertise, celebrating that through the production of all of our garments.
I think a lot of people are striving to revive the industry. With the new generation coming in, there's going to be also a new way of consuming local products and local production... it's nice to have a strong local economy and I think people are more and more sensitive to that for sure.
Can you give us a preview of what you'll be pitching to the Dragons?
Dragon's Den was excited to hear what we had to say and allow us to pitch the product and the brand to the Dragons. We're still waiting for the exact pitch date, but we're so excited to be able to show our project in our movement to the Dragons.
What we're looking for is obviously a key investor to help us take this worldwide. The goal is to be able to dress every wide man with quality products that are made in Canada, that are designed here in Montreal and bring this vision to the world through the magic of the internet age.
Our Kickstarter launched only weeks ago and we're already over our target. The demand is there and I think [the Dragons] were just also impressed with the branding, the story. What we really want is to offer to the wide men of the world something that they can be proud of for once.
Why do you think Wide The Brand important to you and the fashion industry as a whole?
The notion of sensuality and masculine fashion is all about chiselled bodies and there's this notion [that] wide bodies are not viewed as being attractive.
I also think that there is this misconception that plus-size men don't care about the way they look. And I think that for us, that's the root cause of everything.
It's not that we don't care about how we look. It's that we have no options to change the way we look. So if we have no options and no possibilities, how can we change our reality?
And that's what Wide The Brand is about. To give these men options, giving them the possibility to build their own persona show to the world instead of having to deal with the one that's offered to them because no one has ever shown them. There is no reason why plus-size fashions should not be as stylish comfortable.
Women also benefitted from the increase in high-paying jobs, as they "saw a larger increase in the number of jobs paying $30 an hour or more than men. The percentage growth in employment offering this compensation for women was moreover two and a half times higher than for men."
However, between 2019 and 2020, women lost "twice as many paying less than $20 an hour than men."
In addition, "people working in the finance, insurance, real estate and rental industries as well as professional, scientific and technical services [...] contributed nearly 40% to the overall increase in the number of jobs paid $30 an hour or more observed in 2020."
Being in tune with our bodies is important for many reasons. It's how we get in touch with our feelings, decipher our wants and determine our needs both physically and mentally.
The intuition that comes with knowing your body — what's normal and what's not — can be life-saving. Canadian beach volleyball player, Grant O'Gorman, knows this better than most.
Testicular cancer is the number one most commonly diagnosed cancer among young men aged 18-35. While the outcome for men with testicular cancer is often positive, early detection continues to be key. If it's caught early, it's both treatable and curable, but 62% of men who are most at risk don't know how to check themselves for warning signs. Men's health charity, Movember, is on a mission to change that.
By spreading awareness and educating men on how to self-examine at home, and encouraging them to get to a doctor if something doesn't seem right, this charity is leading a conversation that aims to change how men approach their health.
Since April is Testicular Cancer Awareness Month, Movember is teaming up with this young cancer survivor to spread the word.
In 2019, Vancouver-based Grant felt like a superhero. The then 25-year-old Olympic hopeful went from representing Canada at the FIVB Beach Volleyball World Tour to being completely blindsided by a chilling cancer diagnosis.
Now, he's working with Movember to tell his story and help educate others on the risks of testicular cancer.
No matter your age or how healthy you are, Grant says it's crucial to be aware of your body and to go see a doctor if anything seems off: "You might think you're super healthy, but trust me, I was the healthiest guy and it happened to me."
In an exclusive interview with Narcity, Grant opens up about his personal journey and offers advice to young men.
Questions and responses have been edited for clarity.
Tell us about your journey with testicular cancer. When were you diagnosed and how did you find out?
"In the middle of 2019, my teammate Ben Saxton and I were at the world championships representing Canada, and I noticed that my nipple was feeling a little weird. I thought maybe I dove and scratched it or something. But a couple of weeks later, it started to get bigger. When I squeezed it, liquid came out, and I thought that was super weird.
When I got back to Canada, I went to the doctor and had an ultrasound done on my nipple. Nothing came up. They couldn't figure out what was going on.
I went to a couple of different doctors, and finally one of them suggested I get an ultrasound of my testicles, and that's where they found it. I was diagnosed with testicular cancer."
In what must have seemed like the blink of an eye, you went from being a healthy professional athlete to someone dealing with cancer. What was that like, and how did being diagnosed change you?
"I've always been very strong and healthy as an athlete. The discomfort in my nipple didn't affect my playing, so I thought I was totally fine.
But when they told me, 'You have cancer, you have to get surgery to get this removed,' I remember thinking, 'Why is this happening to me? How is this happening to me? I'm healthy and strong. I do everything I need to for my body.'
Being an athlete, I always felt like a superhero, and as soon as this happened, I just felt vulnerable."
What treatment did you have, and did you fully understand the support available to you?
"I just had my right testicle removed — I didn't have to get chemotherapy or anything else. Luckily, it hadn't spread.
Support-wise, I was lucky to have my whole Volleyball Canada team. I have a psychologist available to speak with me whenever I need, a physiotherapist, my teammate, and my wife, Isabela, so I was okay.
It was the start of the COVID-19 pandemic though, so we were sort of isolated from everyone, which made it a little bit tougher."
What do you wish you had known then that you know now?
"I wish I'd known to really be aware of my body and if something is off — even if it's a small thing — to get it checked out right away. Knowing your body is crucial.
Also, never be shy to go to the doctor, even if you think it's embarrassing. I probably wouldn't have gone to the doctor if my wife hadn't made me go, and then the cancer could have spread more."
For many men, it can be uncomfortable to talk about topics like this. What have you found is the general attitude towards testicular cancer among your peers, and how are you working to change perceptions and raise awareness?
"It's important to realize that there is nothing to be embarrassed about. It's a health issue. It's about remaining healthy and alive. You shouldn't be shy about it.
I was never really nervous to tell my friends or anyone, but I think if I was younger I probably would have because it's a very private area.
The main thing is checking yourself regularly, or if you're someone who wants to keep your partner or someone in your life safe, be sure to tell them to check themselves.
If you detect it early, you might only have to get the surgery, as I did. If not, it could be worse."
What is one piece of advice you have for newly diagnosed men, and one piece of advice for men in general?
"If you've recently been diagnosed with testicular cancer, know that there are a lot of other people who have gone through it. I spoke to another beach volleyball player who also had testicular cancer in the past, and it really made me feel more comfortable and that I wasn't alone.
For men in general, know your body well. Besides your testicles, know your feelings, know your hormones... if something's changing, get checked out."
Is there anything else you’d like to tell us?
"Testicular cancer is a young man's cancer, so check yourself regularly. But if you also have brothers, partners, husbands and fathers that are in your life, remind them to check themselves regularly too.
You can follow the YouTube channel my wife and I have created to learn more about our journey with testicular cancer."
To learn more about testicular cancer, visit the Movember website or check out Movember's Nuts & Bolts page for relevant and reliable tools to help you confidently handle the testicular cancer journey.
This article was originally written by Ashley Corbett and published on Narcity Canada.