It's warming up out there and I'm starting to realize how attractive everyone is under their winter layers. Seriously, Canadians are super stylish when summer comes around. You may have noticed this too and come to realize that your winter cuff is looking a little drab.\nIf you're ready to ditch the layers and the Netflix for drinks on terrasses and hanging in the park, you've probably already re-installed a dating app.\nMoving from the initial "match" to an actual in-person date is a difficult journey rife with potential disasters. The most crucial part of this journey are the messages you send, so you have to be really careful about what you say, and when.\nREAD ALSO: Best Restaurants In Montreal For Birthday Dinners\nAs a girl who has used Tinder, I now consider myself an expert on the matter, and I've compiled a list of messages you should NEVER send on Tinder, ever.\nDwelling on Physical Appearance\nThis isn't to say that "you look beautiful!" is inappropriate. But there's a line that you shouldn't cross when talking about a girl's physical appearance. Dwelling on someone's looks is weird. I already know that you find me at least a little attractive, because you matched with me in the first place.\nHere's an example of a bad message:\nSee this is why I don’t use tinder.......(This was literally the 3rd message in)Him: I can’t tell if you’re thin or chubbyHim: Because you have such beautiful and huge boobs (I love it) but you look thin at the same timeHim: ah ah #tinderadventures pic.twitter.com/qrmZIgR70D— ✨Louise ✨ (@L_ou_ise) May 2, 2019\nAnd for crying out loud, don't criticize someone's appearance!! And, though this should be common sense, I would like to remind you that talking about someone's fat, scars, and private parts is NOT good conversation fodder.\nGetting Way Too Sexual\nJust. Stop. That is NOT CUTE, especially when it's the FIRST MESSAGE.\nGet you a friend like @not_clavin who remembers ever cringey tinder message you’ve ever received and holds it against you forever 👌😩 pic.twitter.com/Dcl3GVPWBL— some douchebag with an acoustic guitar (@TaliaTacy) May 7, 2019\nTalking About Your Ex\nSure, you just broke up with your ex. Yes, you're still upset about it. That's cool and all, but I don't need to hear about it just yet. I can give you a therapist's number, though. This is ESPECIALLY true if you're going to talk bad about your ex. That's a big red flag.\nAbridged version of worst tinder message ever "I don't like small talk, so let me tell you about my ex's sex life" pic.twitter.com/AWo3mlRW5e— taquito (@sadblackdad) September 27, 2016\nTaking Too Long To Ask For A Date\nThere's only so much you can say over messages. If you're vibing, ask her out! Sure, both parties are equally responsible for asking for a face-to-face meeting. But if your match is shy, speak up!\nNot like this, though:\nI deleted all the dating apps off my phone after I met the guy I’m seeing now. I totally forgot I had Tinder on my iPad until today when I got a new message notification. 2 months later...really dude?? pic.twitter.com/WqlpIpOc4E— Danielle Gauthier—Hernan P Fan Account (@danibanani24) May 1, 2019\nNo one has patience for ambiguous signals. Be direct, but polite.\nBeing Too Forward About Meeting Up\nOn the other hand, it's also weird to want to meet up right away. Listen, I won't judge what you're on Tinder for. If you're looking for a casual hookup, good for you!\nHowever, I like to think that romance isn't dead, so please at least TRY to pretend that you're interested in what I have to say.\nGuys on tinder be like hey what’s up, let’s hang out..dude chill I just met you one message ago...control yourself amigo— anythingforselinas (@mightymorfinnnn) May 1, 2019\nThis is why I deleted tinder and also why i don’t use POF 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 i literally ignore every message i get on this app. But, this made my morning 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣 pic.twitter.com/eX2lmg7X9q— Moody Sag 🐢 (@Sariahriaa) May 2, 2019\nThere's nothing less attractive than someone being forward if they're not eloquent about it.\nJust Being An American Tourist\nYou know exactly what I'm talking about. Those dudes who are around for the weekend "with the broskis," celebrating either someone's eighteenth birthday or a bachelor party.\nThis tweet sums it up pretty well:\nthe tinder bio of every American male visiting mtl - in Montreal for the weekend, looking for someone to show me the city & help me practice my french ;)a tip - don’t be that guy— bec (@babygotbecc) April 13, 2019\nFinding Someone On Their Socials Instead\nIf a girl doesn't give you her Insta handle or her number, there's a good reason. Don't be a creep and find her on social media instead. It's weird, and it pretty much guarantees you won't get a reply.\nWhy guys gotta message you “I saw you on tinder” like ya I did too but you don’t see us matched now do ya— torianna (@ToriannaO) May 7, 2019\nReplying With "Dead Ends"\nBy this I mean just answering "haha" or "cool" to messages. This is not cool because it makes you look uninterested (because you can't be bothered to ask a girl a question back or continuing the conversation in any way) and boring (because it makes you look like someone who can't hold a conversation).\nwho the fuck replies to a tinder message with "thanks hun x"— sarah (@sarahdal) May 7, 2019\nGiving Unsolicited Political Advice\nThis should be obvious, but it's not. I'm not on Tinder to have you explain to me your wack political beliefs that I don't have time to argue with. I'm especially confused by men making it clear that they hate women and yet still expect a date??\n#tinder message of the night. (I exchanged no messages with this person). #abuse #misogyny #feminism pic.twitter.com/nUjkkSAFm3— Heidi Matthews (@Heidi__Matthews) July 27, 2018\nas if I've went on tinder for the first time in months and the first message I receive is some wee boy asking my opinion on feminism and then trying to argue that feminism "extremist that silences half the population" :) time to delete the app methinks x— Amy (@amyandersonx) March 25, 2019\ndid this guy just message me on tinder JUST TO SAY "feminism is retarded" OK BITCH YOU WANNA FIGHT? tell me where you stay— honey dipped velvet (@illumathotti) December 28, 2014\nThis is just a start. Gals and guys out there: use common sense, don't be creepy, don't pry and have fun! There are a ton of fun dates to take a potential fling on this spring, so enjoy the sunshine and your flirty dates.