10 Signs He's Playing You Harder Than A Bass Guitar
The only reason ghosting is acceptable.
You meet this guy. He seems to be everything you've ever wanted. He is smooth, charming, beautiful, and can keep up a conversation with pretty much anyone in sight. And the chemistry... Let's not even get started on the obvious magnetic field that surrounds the both of you when you're in the same room. Sounds like a one way ticket to paradise. Not too fast, sparky.
Yes, Irina did confirm that, but that's when they are ready to settle down. What happens before the fact? How do you differentiate between "I want to settle" and "I want to fvck your brains out multiple times, and then eventually ghost you". It's a tough call. Especially since Montreal is filled with knockout guys and girls, that are playing the game better than the pickup guru Strauss in the book itself.
Most of the time, you're blinded by the allure or the idea of the person to realize that you are just a conquest or a victim of their chase. I speak from extensive experience in that department, having dated multiple fvckboys in the past, and being a fvckgirl myself (yes, guilty as charged but I'm a changed woman now).
Here are 10 very sure signs that he might like it, but he's definitely not putting a ring on it (anytime soon at least).
1. Doesn't call, but texts instead
Texting is very easy. If he's taking the time out of his day to call you, then he is already putting himself ahead of all the real fvckboys.
2. Sees you fewer than 3 times a week
This rule is golden. Any fvckboy knows that the limit to seeing a person that you are playing is less than 3 times a week. Because he most likely also has a full time job/career and dating multiple people at a time.
3. Takes around 20 minutes to answer each text message
This one is classic, but a bit outdated. A really good player will mirror your moves instead. If you text back to back, he will do as followed. If you wait an hour between each message, he will wait an hour and a half.
4. Doesn't introduce you to his parents
A player will never introduce you to his family. He will make up excuses as to why you haven't met them yet, but still won't. Because to him family is important and if you come around the most significant people in his life, it's because he's making the move towards being serious. Hence, it won't ever come from a fvckboy. And in the rare cases where you do, you won't be introduced as the girlfriend but a friend instead.
5. Has a reputation of being a "player"
Like they say, it takes 20 years to build a reputation, and five minutes to ruin it. If every girl/guy you know is talking about how that person is not serious and known for playing around with girls, that probably means they've heard right (or they know first hand because they've been played by that person)...
6. Acts one way with you in person, and a different way when he doesn't see you
Aka hot and cold. When you are with him, he acts as if he's falling in love with you, but the second that you leave his house, he goes back to being distant and cold. This is the typical move of someone who is playing with you.
7. Tells you he is "very busy" ahead of time
This is his way of setting up his schedule for the week. If you think he's busy, he doesn't have the obligation to check in, therefor he has more free time to do what he wants, or pick up other girls.
8. Vaguely discusses the status of your "relationship"
Because you're not in one. If a man is good and ready to settle down with you, he will make sure you know. He wants to scream it to the world because he's so overjoyed to be with you. If he's not, then that's because he's not looking to get serious. He's still fishing for more baits.
9. Doesn't leave you alone
He is persistent. He is aggressive because he has motives. Therefor he will keep coming back, and it's not for the reasons you think. So do not fall for it.
10. Always comes back for more
They won't have pride with you. A fvckboy won't leave you alone because he wants your attention, but he also wants everyone else's, just as much.
*Bonus sign: Don't sleep with him for a few months, and see if he sticks around...