WARNING: This is not a list of do's and dont's because every guy is different, and to generalize about what works would be wrong. But I do believe there are guidelines that make a man fall for you, even when he says he's emotionally unavailable or "isn't the relationship type of guy"...

Picture this: You meet this guy. Maybe he has every quality in your list of requirements, or he makes your heart skip a beat every time he walks into a room, or maybe he makes you laugh like you've never laughed before. Whatever the case may be, you want him to be yours. But of course, being the lady that you are, you don't want to make the wrong moves or sound too desperate.

So what do you do?

1. You screenshot every text conversation/Facebook message and send it to your girlfriends asking: What should I answer?

2. you wait 20 minutes between every text message (he needs to think I'm busy).

3. OR there's the third option, the advice your best friend has told you (multiple times) before... Be yourself.

There's an exception to this rule...If being yourself means any of the following:

Acting desperate, showing signs of obsession, stalking, or manipulating your way into his life.

DO NOT DO THIS.

Men work in very simple ways... He is either into you, or really not. You can usually figure it out from the following points:

Attraction.

There's a level of attraction that is needed for a man to fall for you. Now, I am not talking about the stereotypical Barbie doll look (fake boobs and blond hair can only go so far).

I'm talking about real, meaningful attraction. Women who are comfortable in their skin and are confident, attract the men they want. That's because they love themselves first. A man likes a woman who is independent, a woman who doesn't "need" him necessarily, but wants him in her life.

Let things happen naturally.

I stress this point. Don't force things that are not meant to happen. Everything is about timing in life. Too many girls try to take control of the situation too quickly, and then wonder why the guy runs away blaming it on his work schedule or lack of commitment. It's because he felt you pressuring him unconsciously. Just like when you talk about your future kids names when you haven't been on the third date yet, or ask question like: when am I meeting your parents? Don't rush it. As hard as it is, try to restraint yourself from pushing him into a commitment. Go at his flow.

Live your life the same way you did before you met him.

This goes back to my previous point of being independent. Women who have their lives put together ( a career, hobbies, and a good group of friends) don't chase after men. When he comes into your life, you appreciate that he came at the right time, but you don't start dropping your friends and priorities to satisfy him.

Meet his friends- chill with his friends- like his friends.

They are like his brothers to him. He loves them as much as he loves his family, and it is very important for him that they like the girl he is dating. Don't be that girl who gets annoyed when he wants to be around his boys and asks you to hang out with them. As long as he doesn't make it a point every time you see him, seeing his friends and getting to know them is important if you want to keep him around. You might even find out things about him you didn't know before...You know what they say, tell me who your friends are and I'll tell you who you are.

Be yourself.

At the end of the day, your imperfections is what will him fall in love with you. Your vulnerability, your kind heart, and all those qualities that everyone else around you loves. Don't hide the truth because you're scared of what he might think or do. Let him see your true colours and he will show you his... In due time, of course.

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