Your undergraduate years are labeled as “the best of your life” for many reasons. You meet some of your closest friends, you don’t have your parents breathing down your neck, and you barely have any real responsibilities. You’re partying on the weekends and trying to learn something in between. But when it comes to dating during these years, there is a clear split. Some people are exclusively looking for the casual hook up while others are interested in finding someone special they can cuddle up with and watch 'Love Actually.'
So is it better to be single or in a relationship in undergrad?
Pro: Regular sex
When you’re in a relationship, you’re pretty much guaranteed action. Barring some fight where your partner swears off having sex with you as punishment, you’re getting some at least a few times a week. Even better, it’s safe sex (hopefully). You know your partner’s sexual history so you’re greatly reducing your risk of getting an STI. A dirty hookup in the bathroom of New City Gas may be a sweet story, but you might leave the stall with more than just a sense of satisfaction. What’s more, you know each other’s preferences and what makes each other tick. It’s been said that the best partners in bed are the ones that have been in long relationships.
Con: Tied down
You have sex with only one person.
Pro: Reduce your stress
University is stressful. You have exams, papers, conferences and extracurriculars. At the end of the day, you need to get rid of your stress if you’re going to keep going. Your friends don’t want to hear it because they’re just as stressed out as you about their own problems. They’ll just tell you to f*ck off. Rather than tearing your hair out, it’s nice to have someone you can vent to and talk out your problems.
Con: Resisting temptation
University is a highly sexual environment. That’s just what happens when you put together a group of young, good-looking, intelligent people with alcohol available in abundance. A lot of people are looking for casual hookups and exploring their sexuality. If you’re in a relationship, you have to keep your cool and turn down temptation, which can be extremely tough especially after you've had a few drinks.
Pro: Constant companion
Humans crave companionship. We all want to share our lives with someone else and there are plenty of cool experiences to be had in Montreal. Between all the restaurants, art exhibits, and concerts in this great city of ours, it’s always nice to have someone to go to them with.
Con: Post-Grad Worry
You may have established the best relationship during undergrad but when you finish your four years, you have to figure out what to do. If you truly do care about the other person, you have to consider their hopes and dreams as much as your own. Are you going to stay together or split up? If you stay together, are you moving to the same city? If you do, will you live together? These are all HUGE questions that can determine the course of your life.
Pro: You have an excuse to stay in
There are some nights where you just don't want to do anything. Maybe you had midterms and you haven't slept in the past two days. Whatever it is, the thought of getting dressed up and socializing is utterly daunting. If you're in a relationship, you have the perfect excuse to sit on the couch and turn on Netflix: you're spending the night with your significant other. Your friends may groan but there isn't really anything they can say. It's totally legit. Every couple needs some alone time to foster their affection.
Con: Long-distance relationship
So university students, what do you think? Would you rather have a one night stand or find someone you really care about?