The Brutally Honest Life Of A Professional Exotic Dancer
Here's everything you've ever wanted to know.
Whenever I see stripper, I ask myself 2 questions.
1. How much for a lap dance?
2. What is like being a stripper?
Of course, if given the chance I would probably have several more followup questions, which is why I was really happy to have come across this wonderful Reddit AMA.
The Original Poster, has been an exotic dancer for 6 years and before she retires, she decided to answer questions on Reddit.
1. Is it hard to have a bf?
"I can only speak for myself, and for me it hasn't been. I actually met my Husband at that very same club a month into me working there. We have been together ever since and have children together. But I do feel the longer you work there, the harder it is to meet someone. It's easy to become jaded and many woman have ended up single for years from being a dancer.
Its funny, a lot of people think dancers are sluts and have sex with everyone they see. But in reality it's the opposite. A lot girls I work with have not had sex in years."
2. What is the weirdest proposition a patron has ever made to you?
"So far I haven't got any extra weird propositions. The weirdest customer I ever came across liked to sit next to me and just run his hands over my arms and legs. One day he said to me "I would like to get you into my bedroom and pull your skin." After that, I was gone. He still comes in but he rarely ever gets dances. It seemed to me he wanted to skin me alive."
3. How often do guys jizz in their pants during a lap dance?
"Lol that does happen. It happens at least once a week. I don't care as long as they don't get it on me."
4. What is something you wish you had been told when you started doing exotic dancing?
"I wish I had been told how to handle sexual assault. You are never ready for it when a strange man decides to touch your crotch. It's honestly kind of sad in that way. People think once you walk into the door, anything goes. They don't really see you as a person. They think it's okay to touch you in areas nobody should be touched unless asked first.
You never get use to that. And I have witnessed new girls come running back into the dressing room crying because they were touched inappropriately for the first time. And they usually leave and never come back."
5. Are you a good dancer? Does being a good dancer equal more $$$?
"I am not lol. To be honest I don't even do many pole tricks. I would love to learn more, but doing so in a bar full of people would mean falling on your ass multiple times in a bar full of people. I plan on ordering a pole for my home soon to practice on."
6. What's the most money you made in one night?
"My best night, I made about $800. I work the night shift and it's a pretty short shift. Maybe 5 hour's at the most. So it's hard to get past making a grand unless you are being tipped really well."
7. How many times has a customer fallen in love with you?
"I've honestly lost count. It happens all the time. It makes me feel bad too because I know they are lonely and just wanting someone to share life with. But I never lead anyone on just for money. Most of the girls will let a guy think there is a chance at a relationship so he will keep giving her money. I don't do that.
I don't believe in using people. No matter what job it is. It never makes it okay. They are still real people with real feelings. I always tell them I am happily married and a relationship will never happen. If they choose to move on, that is there is chance. If they still want to buy dances and hang out with me, their choice."
8. What are some of the bigger misconceptions people you meet/know have of the job?
"There is so many. People think all dancers have Daddy issues. That they all do drugs. That could not be farthest from the truth. Most girls I work with have a great relationship with both of their parents. Most of them don't do any drugs nor drink. They go home to there kids and Husband at night. They aren't partying all night or doing lines on a table. It's very different than from what people expect it to be."
9. On a scale from 1-10 how creepy is it when a patron tries to learn your real name?
"It doesn't bother me much. I actually do use my real name. They don't know my last name, so it's not like they can find me. I've had some find me on Facebook and try to message me. But considering I am married I don't think its appropriate to have contact with them outside the bar."
10. How will you celebrate the start of 2017?
"You're right, I probably should. This is my first time doing this and I have only been on Reddit for a short while. So I am still figuring everything out lol. Thank you! I am celebrating by sitting in my bedroom alone and eating pizza. My Husband decided to start construction on our kitchen....today of all days...so I am sitting on my bed in a bad mood lol"