Friends, have any of you ever been a little curious as to what it's like to be a cam girl? I mean, for sure you are. I feel like everyone's at least a little curious as to how someone in the sex industry works.
Recently, I had the chance to speak with Montreal cam girl, Twitter user @Embereon (link NSFW), about her life and her career. She was incredibly open and honest, so if you've got some questions you'd like answered, then prepare for one really awesome and insightful read.
When did you decide to become a cam girl?
This time last year (Feb) I discovered it in December of 2015 and studied it for about 2 months before I started. (March 11th 2016). It all started from following a gorgeous girl named Jessica Wilde on Instagram, I was curious about her job and then found out about being a cam girl.
How did you break into the business?
I used I less intimidating site (Cam4) to get my feet on the ground, I studied other girls and researched a lot of do's and dont's. Then one day I just dove in and started part time, I only started full time caming in January of this year. I Cam currently on two sites : Chaturbate and Cam4, I plan on testing Myfreecams out too soon as well alongside Camversity.
What are your hours like? Do you make your own schedule, or do you have a certain amount of hours you absolutely need to do?
I have no schedule, no commitment. But really I'm on almost everyday, sometimes night sometimes day. You have to be on in order to make money, if you don't show up you won't make much cash, besides Snapchat sales and then you might lose your regulars.
Do you have mainly one certain "type" of client, or are all your clients pretty much different?
I have a very diverse clientele, some young some old, some there just to get off or some there looking for friendship (my fave type) I even have submissive men who wish to eat their own -you know what. I'm a switch, meaning I can be submissive or dominating, so my supporters are a mix. I even have women. I would say the majority of my clients are single or unhappy in their relationships.
Are most of your clients super loyal to you, or do you see a huge variety of different people most of the time?
I have a handful of very loyal people, but even then from time to time they explore their options. I call them 'regulars'. The thing with regulars is that they come and go and as one leaves there's usually another one who replaces the empty spot. One thing is you can't take it personal if you see a regular go to another camgirl or doesn't come back, there's always reasons like perhaps you weren't on when they seek connection or if they up and disappear then perhaps they got a romantic partner.
What's your funniest, weirdest, or most out of the box experience as a cam girl?
I once was paid to hump a pumpkin, eat a jalapeno, and hump a teddy bear. The thing is the guys who are there more for connection prefer interesting things versus just sex (I mean they could just watch Pornhub for free sex vids). And the weirder the shows the more they interact. One thing I love doing is glitter shows, rubbing oil and glitter all over my body. Also for my birthday show I popped balloons full of glitter all over me. It's not you're normal 9-5 desk job thats for sure.
Do you have another job, or is this your main source of employment?
This is my main source of income currently. It's been just less than a year I've been caming. So I built up my fan base then I quit my job in December and started full time caming in January. Some days are epic and some days are slow but that's what passive income is like.
Do you ever get recognized by friends, family, or anyone else?
I have not been recognized. And most of my family and friends know what I do for a living, so they don't really try to look for me, at least from what I am aware of.
What exactly does it take to become a cam girl?
Guts to take control of your life, there's no qualifications besides just doing it. Taking the road less traveled, perhaps weeding out fake friends. From my experience anyways. If you do your research you can become a camgirl or even a camboy with simply a click of a button. It's a good job for those who are anxious because you don't have to interact with people in real life, you simply sit behind a computer screen. The hardest part about starting caming for me was knowing some friends won't accept it and I would lose them. But with those people out my life it's way better and I'm much happier.
How do you do what you do? What type of commitment, equipment, etc... do you need?
To get started all you need is a little education, a game plan and some kind of electronic device. For a very beginner with nothing much you can stream from a cell phone if you just download the app that corresponds to your site. If you have a laptop with a built in camera that's good too for a beginner. If you want to do more then download OBS (allows you to put fancy writing around your stream & info such as tip this amount for this thing) a HD webcam, mine's a Logitec c920 and some lighting (unless you're having a glow in the dark party). Typically clients know if you're new and starting out (use this to your advantage, they might be inclined to tip more to help you out.) Have an Amazon wishlist and a Twitter account to self promote. When you first sign up to cam you will need ID to prove your age to as well (18+). This job is simple to get started and with self discipline easy to keep going, just need a optimistic outlook.
How do you feel about what you do? Is it empowering, are you thinking of sticking with it for much longer, etc..?
I love love love my job, I'm proud about it and very empowered by it. It helps me get over anxiety, allows me to be accepted for who I truly am, I get to sit around in lingerie and talk to people about the things I like. It's truly a bombass job and I'm so happy to be able to do it. I plan on working with caming / personalized porn / nude modeling / being an entertainer for a good 10 more years, I wish to get published one day in a adult magazine (Penthouse / Playboy / Summum) that would be a huge goal achieved.
I do have an additional bit to add:
Most people think sex workers can't do their jobs and be in a stable relationship but I've met many camgirls who are even married and cam. I myself am with a man who fully supports what I do and is even pushing me to go for my goals. (I recently went to Vegas for AVN which is essentially the Grammy's but for porn with the help and support of my partner.) Some girls might be scared to start caming due to their partner and my best advice is be open about what you want, what you want to achieve and where you want to go in life. For me I love caming so much that I needed to do this and to make this happen and then I got a man who accepted me. You must be happy in life with what you do and you should regret anything including your job. This is a perfect job for someone who can't find one!
Photo cred (all photos) - @Embereon