We've all heard it before, "learn to love yourself first before loving someone else". Or, "behind every successful woman is herself" or the typical "if you can't handle me at my worse than you don't deserve me at my best" all those cheesy uplifting quotes that make you feel better at night.
All kidding aside, if you can relate to this you need to start changing your agenda. Don't get me wrong, I'm preaching to my own choir. To the point that I made a vow to myself that I wouldn't get into a serious relationship until I had accomplished all the goals I had set in my mind.
When I met my boyfriend two years ago, I was completely satisfied with my life - heading in the direction I had set myself to. I was no where close to being "ready" or even wanting a relationship. When you're single for a long time, you start to take care of yourself and become comfortable with it. Long story short, he didn't give up that easily.
But why do we do this?
Simply because, we don't want to depend on a man to make us feel complete. Although, study proves it's the opposite. Being in a committed long term relationship can help you attain your goals even faster than if you did it on your own. According to a study conducted in America, 90% of millionaires get married young.
Think about it - any political figure whether it be the President of the United States, or the heir to the British throne, need to find a wife and wed before they can take on more responsibility.
Being in a committed relationship teaches you to compromise, to reflect, to understand someone else's point of view, and matures you in ways you wouldn't be able to by yourself.
And truth is, being single is a mess.
I speak from personal experience when I say that when you're single, your priorities (as much as you want them to be) are not focused on pushing your career forward. Everyone needs to feel loved and if it's not from your s/o, it'll be filled with endless girl nights and Tinder dates. There's no debating this fact, it's part of the "attachment theory", part of our DNA as human beings.
It's even worse for guys, who fill this void by acquiring one night stands, or "friends with benefits".
I'm not saying there's anything wrong with that, in fact, I think you need to go through those experiences in your early 20's to get it out of your system, but when you finally find someone who is worth a second date, or even a potential future boyfriend - give it a shot.
When you have settled that part of your life, you can concentrate more seriously on your career and life goals TOGETHER. It's even easier when you have someone to support you emotionally and give you meaningful advice.
So I tell my fellow ladies - maybe not to settle down necessarily, but to not do the same mistake I did (which almost cost me my boyfriend), and to let love come into your life, even if it you don't think it's the "right" time, you'll soon realize there's no "right" time, just the time that's in front of you...Don't waste it.