I've always been fascinated with people who break norms and live unordinary lives. In my past, I have been trying to find a woman willing to open up about what it really means to be an escort. All my attempts have been unsuccessful until a few weeks ago, when a girl approached me at a party, stating that she's read my articles and wanted me to write something about her life as an "ex-hooker" (her exact words). I thought to myself, "Wow, bingo!"
She preferred to stay anonymous and I kindly agreed to keep her identity confidential. I still don't fully understand what made this woman trust me enough to share her secret, but I'm very pleased with the outcome of this unusual experience. You might wonder why would she want me to write this post? I asked her the same exact question and she answered, "Maybe, somehow, this can help other girls going through similar things in life..." I was sold at this point and couldn't wait to start our interview.
How did you get into this business?
I started thinking about it as soon as I turned 18, probably even before that, but never really had the guts to do it. After being in an abusive relationship, I was kind of done with everything and just wanted to make fast money. I found a nice looking ad on Craigslist (as nice as it gets to be honest), and I called the number mentioned. The next day, I passed by their incall place, met with the boss and one of the escorts and two days after I was working.
How much money do escorts make?
It actually depends on a lot of different factors. The time a girl is willing to spend working is obviously a huge factor (I was working three days a week, some girls would work six), as well as the girl's looks. Being an escort is mostly about bringing fantasy into the client's life, so if a certain girl fits the ''ideal'' fantasy, chances are she won't get refused, and therefore will make money. It's superficial in the way that if a girl is on the bigger side or has tattoos or coloured hair, the client might ask to get another girl. I was refused for being a brunette because the client wanted a blonde. It happens.
Did you ever get any weird clients who didn’t want to have sex, but just wanted to cuddle and cry or something?
I've personally never had clients who didn't want any form of sexual encounter. I've heard of other girls who had clients that just wanted to talk and smoke a joint or have a drink. In my experience, older men usually only asked for light intercourse (i.e massage, handjobs, etc.).
What’s your average demographic like? Describe a typical client.
A typical client is a businessman who wants a quick bang (sorry for the expression) before going back home to his regular life. Like I said, we're a fantasy, a distraction. Men have told me that they wished they could stay longer but their wife was waiting at home. Those men usually make it quick. It really varies though, which actually surprised me. My first client was a 21 year old virgin, and I've had men who could've been my grand-father. All races, all ages and all lifestyles. Sex is sex, sex is pleasurable.
What made you stop being an escort?
I kind of started feeling uncomfortable with myself. I started doubting my self-worth and self-respect. I also started going out more since summer had started and the more I met people, the more I felt like shit about my job. Yes, I could afford 500$ shoes and I could afford to eat at restaurants everyday and go shopping bi-weekly, but was it worth the way I felt when I took my sixth shower in a night? No, it wasn't. That's mainly what made me stop. The way I saw myself changed. I remember the last two nights I worked I started crying during the act and had to ask the client to leave.
Did your family and/or friends ever find out about your occupation?
All in all, only 4 friends (and now you) know about that part of my life. I never told my parents, and probably never will. But I can't say I was never scared of people finding out. You never know who's on the other side of the door. You never know who you'll see walk into that hotel. It was scary.
Have you ever had feelings or felt attached to a client?
I love that you ask that question, because I wanted to tell you about it! He was my last client one night, I would've stayed with him all night if it were possible. I went to his condo around 3 am, he opened the door and it was like love at first sight. Thirty, handsome, successful and a complete gentleman. We spoke about 30 mins before him telling me he was going to waste his money if we didn't head to the bedroom. The sex was amazing! When the hour was over, I didn't want to leave. He was so well-spoken, so wise and smart. We exchanged numbers, and we saw eachother soon after that. We watched Jeopardy before going to sleep and breakfast was ready when I woke up. I was happy. He eventually got insecure about the job I had. It's totally normal, I screwed it up. I hope he gets his hands on this article, sometimes I miss him. I stopped working not too long after we broke things off.
What’s the worst/scariest part about this business? Also, describe your best experience.
I think the scariest part about the business is that you never know who and how your next client is going to be. Once, I got sent to this guy's house in Île-des-Soeurs for four hours. When I got there, I didn't know that our ''dispatcher'' (feels so weird calling her that. She takes the calls and texts, often making the client believe she is the escort so it's more personal) had agreed to do cocaine with the client and eventually put a strap-on on and, well, fuck him. I was pretty surprised when he told me about his plan for the next four hours. I politely declined, and left. That was probably my weirdest experience.
As for my best experience, I don't think there ever was a client who I can deem as my best moment, but I became very close with the manager of the agency. We became friends. He was also the driver of the agency while I was there, and I always wanted to hang out with him while I wasn't with a client. I felt like he was the only person treating me like a human being at that time. We went to eat at this chinese restaurant on Ste-Catherine a couple times, he took care of my well-being. I grew pretty fond of him. When I quit he told me it was best for me, that I didn't seem happy with myself anymore. It secured my choice.
Would you ever get back into it?
I've thought about it. I could just turn my switch off again and go do it for the money, but I don't think I would. I grew a lot because of that experience and I do not regret it but I think I'm a lot happier with myself now than when I got into the industry in the first place. But I think about it very often. I think about it every single time I pass by the incall place on Boul. René-Lévesque. Every. Single. Time.
Do you tell your boyfriend about your past? How have your relationships been working out?
I've had one serious relationship since this happened, and I never told him. I'd like to think I will be able to open up about it when I find the person I want to spend the rest of my life with but it's scary. I wouldn't want to risk losing that person, you know? It would have to depend on the situation. It hasn't really affected my life, except that it made me grow and get to know myself a lot more. I was a different person before that whole experience, and I don't regret the person I am now.