If you're a side chick and you're cool with it, that's fine. However, sometimes, girls are put into the side chick basket without even knowing it... and most girls prefer being the main event instead of being the opening act, if you know what I mean.
Some guys can lure you in by alluding to the possibility of a relationship in the near future, but they just want you as their side chick. Have no fear though, there are a bunch of red flags that will give you a good indication of where you're standing in his books.
1. You never get to meet his friends
You've already introduced him to all your girlfriends and are wondering if it's time for him to meet your parents... but then you realize you haven't met any of his friends. None! So you tell yourself, "It's ok, maybe he doesn't have any friends". No, girl. He has friends but he doesn't want you to meet them, because this privilege is reserved for his real girlfriend. Sorry.
2. He's not into relationships
When a guy tells you that he's not into relationships, he's lying. He's basically trying to politely let you know that he doesn't see you as anything more than a side bang. He's actually into relationships, just not with you. Walk away, you can do better than that.
3. You only see each other for sex
Did you ever hang out without actually getting down and dirty? No? You're his side chick. You might try and convince yourself that you're just so hot, he can't resist you... the truth is - he just wants to bang and you're available. You're not his girlfriend.
4. You don't have actual dates
You might have had a few dates when you two just met. However, nowadays, he never wants to go out. He just wants to "Netflix and chill" and you never actually "Netflix and chill," if you know what I mean. I hate to break it to you, but he doesn't want to be seen in your company in public, honey. Why? Because his real girlfriend might really not like that if she finds out. Run!
5. You've never been to his place
If he always comes up with excuses as to why you shouldn't go over to his place, that's a major red flag. Chances are, he's living with his girlfriend and you're the other woman. Why else would he not want you to come over? Think about it.
6. You never spend the night together
He never wants to "stay and cuddle," because he probably has to wake up early the next day and has a meeting in the morning or something. The reality is, he just wants to hit it and quit it with you instead of getting all lovey-dovey. Guys "stay and cuddle" with their girlfriends, not their side chicks.
7. You see each other at really weird hours
Sunday 3p.m. or strictly after midnight? Once a week? You're his side chick. He probably tells you that he has a crazy work schedule and that he would spend all his time with you if he only could. Right... Even Barack Obama has time for his wifey and you're telling me this guy you just met is too busy at work to see you? Come on girl. You're obviously not his priority. His girlfriend is.
8. You only text about sex
He doesn't really care how your day is going, he just wants your nudes. Another topic of conversation is trying to figure out when you're seeing each other to bang, of course. That's a clear indication of his area of interests, girl.
9. He often cancels plans with you last minute
Something comes up and he can't see you anymore. Wanna know what came up? His girlfriend. Canceling plans last minute also shows that he has no respect for your time. A guy who has no respect for your time doesn't see you as anything serious, obviously.
10. He has a ring on his finger
Uh... he's actually not hiding that he's married? He might tell you that he's in the process of getting divorced or that things are not going well with him and his wife. You're clearly a side chick and he's lying. He's not getting a divorce and he's not a nice guy. Dump him right now.