A lot of guys probably ask themselves how to successfully approach girls on social media. You know when you message someone you find attractive, like "Hey, what's up" and they read the message but never reply. Whyyyy? Well, I'm here to help you figure out why she hasn't replied and how to avoid being ignored.
Online flirting takes time to master. I spoke to ten attractive Montreal girls in their twenties from my Facebook friends list and asked them to share their stories or tips on ways to impress them online. Let's see what kind of advice Montreal girls have to give on this subject.
1. State the obvious
If you approach a girl online, introduce yourself and state the obvious - that you two don't know each other. Mention that, although you don't know her, her profile caught your eye or something. Just be real, because Facebook doesn't invite flirtation. Girls don't get a Facebook account to meet guys, that's not what it's for. When girls see a random message, it weirds them out.
2. Put some effort
Messages like: "hey", "what you doing ", "sa va", "yo", "sup", etc. only mean one thing - lack of effort. Most girls never reply to these things. Spelling mistakes are also a major turn-off. If she doesn't reply after you've texted "hey" ten times, change the line, come up with something different... Also, insulting a girl who's been ignoring you won't get you a reply.
3. Be careful with Likes and Comments
If a guy has like 4000 girls on his Facebook friends list or he likes and comments on girl's photos a lot - that's a turn off. Girls see all these red flags, because we're all very skilled spies and we know everything.
4. Find out what she's like
When approaching a girl on Facebook, run a basic search through her profile. Try to grasp what kind of girl she is. Look at the posts she's shown interest in and create a conversation around them. You have friends in common? Mention them. This way you're moving away from the social media platform and creating possibilities for real life encounters.
5. Meet her in real life
Most girls actually prefer being approached in real life first. Find out where she works or hangs out, ask your friends in common to introduce the two of you or try to "randomly" bump into her and only then you can add her on social media.
6. Be creative
Be creative in your approach. For example, "Hey ugly, I know you will never write back" or a random "My favourite colour is tree." Most girls might actually reply to something silly or out of the ordinary. Be eccentric and bold.
7. Talk business
Girls will most probably reply to anything that is business related. Is she a real estate agent? Ask her about a property she is selling. Does she work in fashion? Talk to her about latest trends and be legitimately interested. Once she gains trust in you as a businessman, you can invite her to discuss things over a glass of wine. Genius.
8. Be smart
Don't ask her out after 3 a.m. That's a booty call, not a date. Your chances of gaining her trust again after this fail are very slim. Also, very important, NEVER message a girl when you're drunk. You will regret it the next day.
9. Don't be creepy
If you add a girl on social media, don't go liking every single picture she has posted from 2008 to 2015. You can stalk all you want, but don't let her find it out. Don't message a girl right after she uploads a new profile picture either, like "Hey, gorgeous." Wait it out. Keep your conversations light and funny. Don't get too personal over social media, especially if the two of you don't know each other.
10. Try to look good in your photos
As soon as you message a girl, the first thing she does is look at your profile pictures. Try to be somewhat good looking on the photos or at least well groomed to make her want to reply. Major turn off: photos of guys clubbing, popping bottles and living the "good life" as they call it. Here's a good list of pictures you shouldn't post on your social media. Major turn on: photos with puppies, cats or kids that aren't yours. True story.