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The Brutal Truth About Why You’re So Hard On Yourself, Based On Your Age

If you're between 20 & 30, this is for you.

You can agree with me that we often give ourselves a hard time. We are so used to it that we don't see the negatives effects that it has on our daily life.

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Below, you'll find the brutal truth about why you're so hard on yourself, based on your age.

20 years old:

You’re so hard on yourselfbecause you focus on what you haven't accomplished yet. You’ve just entered a new decade, you probably started university and maybe got an apartment or even a car. However, instead of being proud of where you are right now, you always focus on the things you still haven’t done. I won’t lie, it is good to set yourself a couple of goals, but it is also really important to enjoy the moment and congratulate yourself sometimes to time for the things you’ve accomplished. You’re still young and you have your whole life ahead of you. You need to stop and take a moment to celebrate everything you’ve achieved whether it is small or big before you decide to move on to the next thing.

21 years old:

You’re so hard on yourself because you’re always comparing yourself to others. The truth is there will always to someone out here that is a little bit smarter, a little bit richer, a little bit prettier, etc. But you should never let this get to you. Comparing yourself with everyone is never going to make you feel good because it steals your happiness and brings you so many insecurities. You often compare what you think are the worst things about you to the best things you assume from them. Remember, their life is never as perfect as you think they are. Also, you’re not them, you are better in so many other ways. You have something that they don’t have and you have to keep that in mind.

22 years old:

You’re so hard on yourself because you worry about every fucking thing. You constantly worry about things that won’t even happen. Trust me, worrying too much is never going to have a good impact on your life. In fact, it twill holds you back from the things you should actually be doing. It interferes with your daily life and you can’t act like a normal person. There is a way you can stop worrying. You have to look at life from a positive way. Every unexpected thing that will come into your life will be the start of a new adventure. Seize it and make the most of it.

23 years old:

You’re so hard on yourself because you dwell on every mistake you make for like forever. Whenever you make a mistake, you tend to criticize yourself for days. Like until you forget about it. Which mean never. You have to keep in mind that we’re all human and we’ve all done stupid things that we profoundly regret. Fortunately, it is in the past and what passed is past. The only thing you can do about it is learn from it and make sure you’ll never do it again. It might be hard at first but with time and patience, you will be able to just accept your mistakes.

24 years old:

You’re so hard on yourselfbecause you never do something nice for yourself. Think about it. When was the last time you really did something nice for yourself? Just for you and not to make someone else happy. You've said "yes" to too many things, you are working days and nights and it just killing you. Maybe you think you don’t deserve it or you think it will make you feel unproductive. But you’re wrong. You are working so hard and you deserve to treat yourself whenever you feel like it. Christmas holidays are coming up pretty soon so it is your chance to just take a moment to do something you haven’t done in a while that you really want to, like go to one of these 8 spas near Montreal.

25 years old:

You’re so hard on yourself because you allow every obstacle to completely wreck you. All the obstacles you face always seems to come when you’re about to succeed. When you’re in the midst of something it is difficult not to see your goal achieved. But don't worry, you will achieve them. In your life, you will come across many obstacles. They can be big or small, and they are most of the time unpredictable. You should never let them crush you. You have to overcome them no matter what. Look at them like it is a test from the universe who wants to see how bad you want something. If you really want it, then you’ll do something that will put you exactly where you are supposed to be. It is only you who can choose to let the obstacle stops you or accept it as part of the process and then overcome it.

26 years old:

You’re so hard on yourself because you blame yourself for things you have absolutely no control of. How many time has someone told you to stop apologizing ? You always apologize for things that are way too often out of your control. The reason is probably because you feel like it is your fault if something is not going well because you are the one in charge or your life. But as you grow old, you have to realize that there are things you should just not apologize for. You should not have to feel sorry if you’re terrible at something, if your relationship failed, if you decided to put yourself first, or even for the way you feel and the way you handle your emotions. Those things are part of life and happen for a reason. You should not let them define who you are. It is none of your fault.

27 years old:

You’re so hard on yourself because you're afraid "you're never good enough". Your biggest problem is that you feel inadequate most of the time. But making you feel that way is unnecessary. You wouldn’t be where you are right now if you were not good enough. The most important thing is that you are good enough to try at whatever you are doing. Take everything in your life and take it as an opportunity to surpass yourself. You are way stronger than you really think you are. Maybe right now you are not at the place you want to be. But if you look at all the work you did to put you where you are right now you'll see that you’re not where you used to be and that is a good thing.

28 years old:

You’re so hard on yourself because you can never accept a compliment. You feel uncomfortable whenever someone compliments you because you don’t see what is so great about you. You have spent to much time criticizing you and now you are used to the little voice in your head that puts you down. So when someone tells you a compliment, it calls into question what you’ve been told internally which makes you then feel vulnerable. Therefore, try to tell yourself something nice every day because you are worthy. Accept these compliments gracefully and feel good about it. You definitely deserve them and nothing you can say will convince me otherwise.

29 years old:

You’re so hard on yourself because you over think everything. Every time you think too much instead of doing something, you are overthinking. Every time you take time to analyze and repeat the same thing in your head again and again instead of doing something, you are, once again, overthinking. You get obsessed and you can’t let it out of your head no matter what. There is nothing more as bad as over thinking things because it drains all your time and energy. This bad habit blocks you from doing extraordinary stuff. If you stop overthinking you’ll become more efficient, more serene and more happy. To help you get rid of this bad habit, you should start by doing something you really like. And more often.

30 years old:

You’re so hard on yourself because you care too much about what others think of you. It is normal to want to be liked and accepted by the people around you. It becomes a problem when you worry too much and you start to do things only to please them. You push yourself so hard to be loved by everyone that you lose the ability to feel good with yourself and with your peers. You have to stop caring about what everyone else think of you because it is not their life. It's yours. Do whatever you want and be whoever you really want to be. Once you stop trying to please everyone, you will be able to live your life to the fullest.

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