It always bothers me when I hear girls say, "I'm only friends with guys, it's less drama". Like, how are you friends exactly? We're so different. We like different things. For example, guys don't do brunches with mimosas and talk about sex stuff. That's what girls do though. Do you call him up and tell him how you regret hooking up with that guy from the club yesterday? A normal dude doesn't want to hear these kinds of stories. So how are you friends with guys? Do you go play hockey with them and then you drink beer? No? Then you're not friends, sorry. You can be acquaintances, but friends? Oh, please! Here are five arguments that prove platonic friendship between girls and guys is a myth.
1. Guys and girls perceive friendships very differently
A research at the University of Wisconsin-Eau Claire examined cross-sex friendships and the results showed the following: even if women point out that they are not attracted to their male friends in any shape or form, men still assume that there is a certain level of attraction going on. In other words, men overestimate the actual level of romantic interest felt by their female friends. In addition, that same study showed that men are ready to act on this mistakenly perceived mutual attraction. Basically, your guy friends are DTF even if you have a boyfriend. Women are less inclined to initiate anything romantic even if they are genuinely attracted to their guy friends.
2. Men have sex on their minds
Norwegian University of Science and Technology has also conducted a similar study that surveyed 308 heterosexual undergrad students between the ages of 18 and 30, asking them about their cross-sex friendships. Here, again, the results show that males overperceive sexual signals sent by their female friends. Let's say you call your guy friend and invite him over to cuddle and watch Netflix, he will right away assume that you want the D in and around your mouth even though you really just want to cuddle.
3. One-sided feelings is a regular occurrence
There is always one person interested in a possible romantic outcome. Whether it's is the guy or the girl - it doesn't matter. One-sided feelings are always present. Can a friendship develop when one party is romantically interested in the other? I think not. The sexual tension will always make shit weird. Jealousy will start to ruin things for the two of you as well.
4. Guys always have an agenda
Jimmy Rice from Express UK wrote an interesting article about this topic. He says, "There’s always an agenda. It sounds shallow – but that’s how we men think." Guys are more likely to develop friendships with women they found attractive and/or that they were willing to sleep with. How can we speak of strictly platonic relationships when human beings are sexual creatures?
5. Friendship between a guy and a girl is possible under one condition
Yes, of course you can have guy friends, but only if they're gay. Otherwise, sexual tension is unavoidable.
Kais Latiri likens himself to a Galileo of immersive sex. "People are afraid of novelty, of innovation, of something new they're not used to," he said. "Take for example Galileo who said the Earth [went around the sun].* He was imprisoned for that."
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That's why when Le Journal de Montréal said Latiri was running a "brothel" out of a Longueuil home, the accountant-turned-tech entrepreneur took issue.
"It's not a brothel," he said. "That's not the right word at all.
He called it a salle de jeux pour adultes — "playroom for adults."
It's clear to see why. The sex workers aren't humans: they're dolls.
Latiri, the owner and founder of Oh My Doll, has insisted his business is not an outrage, but a triumph of love and science.
After years of developing advanced virtual reality technology, he said his company allows customers to indulge in their wildest fantasies, all from the comfort of a South Shore apartment building.
In an interview with MTL Blog, Latiri opened up about the ins and outs of his business and what all this means for the future of romance.
This interview has been condensed and edited for clarity.
Virtual reality sex is not cheating, he says
We live in a world where rapid advances in virtual reality and robotics are going to have a profound impact on both human-to-human and human-to-robot relations, said Latiri.
When he started testing virtual reality in 2018, its quality wasn't very good, he continued. But Latiri realized the experience could develop with time and the release of new "hardware."
"I was at the beginning of the wave."
Instead of viewing an adult scene like in old-fashioned pornography, silicone escorts and virtual reality systems — that simulate the senses of sight, touch, hearing, and even smell — allow Latiri's customers to feel like they're having actual sexual encounters, he said.
Can ladies, couples, and LGBTQ2S+ people get in on the action? You betcha, said Latiri, thanks to an array of male sex dolls and "f*ck machines."
"We have experiences for anyone 18 plus, of course," he continued.
Not everyone is happy with the sex dolls
And yes, the dolls are cleaned between uses.
"In terms of hygiene, our escorts are immediately cleaned after a service," states the website.
"You will see for yourself the hygiene measures put in place. The complete maintenance is done by handing it over to our maintenance staff in our appropriately equipped premises. After maintenance, our silicone escorts are left to rest for at least 24 hours."
With packages costing a few hundred dollars, the Oh My Doll experience is far from cheap but a brand-new doll can cost upwards of $2,000, said Latiri.
Not everyone's happy with the sex dolls.
In an online review of the site, one commenter who identified themselves as "Escort the real one" stated, "Never will you replace us, bastards. We're true skin and bones escorts and we give our clients real love."
And with automation already eliminating millions of jobs around the world, are robots poised to eliminate human sex workers?
Latiri doesn't think so.
"If they love their work and if they have passion, I totally respect that," he said. "And in my mind, it's not like we're here to replace them, that's not the point."
As many of his clients are in committed relationships, Latiri said he hopes Oh My Doll will eliminate infidelity.
"My mission is based on people who are in couples because those people, instead of going to see an escort, they have an alternative that's more ethical," he said.
"And at the moral level, they won't be guilty when they return to their partner compared to if they would see an escort."
Then there are Latiri's religious customers looking to overcome crippling sexual shame and as they struggle with their desires.
"You'd be surprised that there are a lot of religious people," he said. "They come to us with their religious dress and I'm happy that they come, I'm happy that they express their desires. It's really touching."
'Dolls will never replace humans, not today, not tomorrow'
According to information obtained by Le Journal de Montréal, Oh My Doll has been running out of a residential building without a proper permit, but Latiri is punching back, claiming the business is primarily for research and development purposes.
"With all the hubbub that's been created, I don't regret anything, not a thing," he said. "Because I know it's helped me develop the experience and the technology."
He hopes to expand his business by opening "in every city where the need is present."
A spokesperson for the Longueuil police stated that "it is not criminal in Canada to own a sex doll representing an adult person," and that they've looked into Latiri's operations "and have not found any criminal-related activities."
Latiri said he has contacted the owner of the building and said he would move his business if asked.
"The second they want me to get out I'm ready," he said. "It's not about pressure, it's about being good neighbours because they got caught up in this circus."
But whether you think the idea is strange, enticing, or off-putting, Latiri acknowledged it's raising some tantalizing questions.
For example, in a world where ever-more-advanced virtual technology provides better visuals, touch feedback and maybe even artificial intelligence, what's going to happen to old-fashioned human romance, relationships, and sex?
"I'm against the fictitious idea that proposes the dolls are going to evolve and that's going to create a societal problem. The dolls for us are just sex toys," he said.
"When I'm looking into the future of the sex dolls with artificial intelligence where she can move by herself, honestly, I'm not in favour of that."
"Dolls will never replace humans, not today, not tomorrow."
One Montrealer, Won Queenie See, shared her experience of the protest with us, saying: "I was proud to walk the streets of Montreal and be surrounded by my community, my friends and allies. Together, we chanted #StopAsianHate and let our voices be heard."
She said she "encourage[s] everyone to speak up against racism, to check in on your Asian friends and stand by your Asian friends."
The Groupe d'Entraide contre le racisme envers les asiatiques au Québec (GECREAQ) was the group that planned the protest, and they let us know that thousands were in attendance and at least 250 people were watching it virtually.
The Civil Code of Québec currently requires parents to identify themselves as a "mother" or "father" on their children's birth certificates and prevents them from changing their sex on the documents.
The Civil Code also restricts the age Quebecers can change their name or sex designation to 18 and older.
Quebecers aged 14 to 17 who want to change their name can only do so if their parent does not object. And they can only change their sex with a letter from a health professional who conducts an evaluation and declares the change of designation is "appropriate."
Non-citizens who live in Quebec cannot change their name or sex designation in the province until they become Canadian citizens and live in Quebec for at least one year.
Its legal team argued that sections of the Civil Code violate the rights of transgender and non-binary Quebecers, as laid out in the Quebec Charter of Human Rights and Freedoms and the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms.
the requirement to designate sex on official documentation and identification
non-Canadian and young people’s ability to change their designation of sex and their name to conform with their gender identity
Changing the sex designation of a transgender parent on their child's birth certificate
The plaintiffs argued that these articles lead to the misidentification of transgender and non-binary people, creating confusion about their true identities.
"Other than on the day they are born, we do not examine a person's genitalia to identify whether they are male or female."
They also objected to disclosing sex at birth on drivers' licenses, health insurance cards and students’ permanent codes with the Ministry of Education, but did not challenge the legislation or policy decisions that created those rules.
What did the judge rule in the end?
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Grocery stores and pharmacies can deliver during curfew hours
It's not just restaurants that can deliver after curfew!
The government says grocery stores, restaurants, and drugstores can make deliveries at their convenience, regardless of the curfew, while abiding by public health regulations.
Avoid taking your children to stores as much as possible
The government recommends that parents leave children at home as much as possible when frequenting grocery stores or other stores currently open across Quebec.
There is no food shortage in Quebec, but food prices may rise due to COVID-19
The government of Quebec states on its website that no food or sanitary product shortage is in sight.
However, it says that in the exceptional circumstances we're currently experiencing, it is possible that food product prices will fluctuate and that the food industry is facing significant challenges right now.
You don't have to wash your produce with vinegar or anything other than water
All you need to do to wash produce is rinse with water and scrub the surfaces of the food. There is no need for detergent, the government says.
The government site also says that it's better to buy unpackaged produce since the packaging of fruits and vegetables increases the amount of handling by food establishment operators.
You're supposed to wash your mask every time you wear it
The government says that as soon as you get home, you should put your mask in the washing machine with the rest of your laundry, wash it in warm water with regular laundry detergent, and wash your hands after handling it.
It also says to make sure the mask is completely dry before you use it again.
The coronavirus is destroyed at high heat temperatures, such as when food is heated up at a high setting
Fun fact: COVID-19 can be destroyed at high temperatures, like when food is microwaved at the highest setting or when it's cooked in the oven.
Freezing, on the other hand, is not an effective way to neutralize the virus.
It's important to remember that the virus is not spread through what we eat or drink, but by infected droplets that we breathe in or that come in contact with the mucous membranes of our eyes, the government site states.