Why Montrealers Are Struggling To Find Love In The City
I meet so many wonderful single Montrealers who repeat the same thing over and over again, "It's really hard to meet quality people!" The truth is, meeting quality people is not the actual problem.
Montreal is full of superb singles: hard-working, ambitious, kind hearted, well spoken. The real trouble is hidden so deep inside our city, it's almost impossible to pinpoint why romantic issues keep recurring. So I took it upon myself to try and figure out why Montrealers are struggling to find love. Here's my amateur analysis:
Abundance of choice
Montreal is a big city. There are literally, "plenty of fish in the sea." As a result, when we meet someone new, we instantly get that little voice in the back of our heads, "What if someone better comes along? I wouldn't want to miss out on that opportunity." So we never fully invest in relationships and keep our options open. So next time you hear someone say, "I'm kind of seeing someone", you know what that means.
Party, party and more party
Let's face it, Montreal is a party city. We live for the weekend: dinners, drinks, music... It creates an enormous distraction from things that actually matter. But then, if you don't go out, how else are you supposed to meet new people? It's a vicious cycle.
Everyone knows each other
This characteristic is particular to our city. We're one big community of never-ending gossip. Every time we meet someone new, chances are you have "friends" in common who already have juicy scoops on standby ready to hit the fan. Consequently, we're extra careful with letting people into our private lives and generally opening up to them.
I've already written posts about what's wrong with Montreal's hook-up culture. I still firmly believe that we desperately need an intervention.
Love is not "cool"
Modern society teaches us to be strong and independent. Being in love makes you vulnerable and helpless. Therefore, love does not match the mentality of progressive men and women. What's "cool" today? Being career focused and building empires, not looking for love, unfortunately.
Tinder, Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook... we depend on Likes, Shares, Views and Comments, rather than real life quality time spent with that special someone. This is obviously not particular to Montreal. Technology has consumed the whole world and it's not helping our love life situation.
"Fast food" life
Montrealers are always on the go. Quick, fast, run, don't stop! This approach is also applied to love. Something goes wrong, you get into a fight? Done, next! Nobody wants to waste time or try and work things out. "Ain't nobody got time for that..."